Eloping And Quick Vegas Marriages Banned Essay - 933 Words

Eloping and Quick Vegas Marriages Banned Are tests and courting minimums for marriage a good idea? People marrying today are in to big of a rush, don t know their partners, or what a long-lasting marriage entails. By reading Stephanie Coontz’s article â€Å"The Radical Idea of Marrying for Love† and Aviva Patz â€Å"Will Your Marriage Last?† I came to the conclusion that people should spend more time in a dating, and should be tested to see if they are really ready for marriage. Koontz, a historian, wrote an article about the history of marriage and how our current idea of marriage hasn’t always been the norm. Whereas Patz’s article is about research done by Tom Huston, a professor from the University of Texas, on 168 couples throughout their courtship and marriage. From these two articles I realized people should not be able to marry till they have courted for 3 years, and can past a test showing they are ready for marriage. There should be a court ing minimum on relationships before you qualify for marriage. When you have a short courtship, you don t get to know your partner well enough for an effective marriage. Patz explains Tom’s research, â€Å"Houston says couples are most vulnerable to disillusionment when their courtship is brief† (Patz 301). Having a longer courtship can make time for you to get to know your partner better. You can then learn the â€Å"hidden aspect of their personalities,† and â€Å"idealized images give away to more realistic ones† (Patz 301). Longer relationships